When dating, or thinking about dating, there are some things to ponder about. Many of these things have to do with looking deep within your mind at your priorities, ideas and interests. Much of this has to do with self-growth.
Why Do You Want to Get Involved with Another Person?
A very important to think about prior to searching for a significant other is to think about why you want to do so. Do you want to get with someone because of a strong urge to have adult relations? Do you want to get with someone because your friends or your family are pressuring you to do so? Are you thinking of getting with someone with the plan in mind of having a traditional family? Do you like the emotional support of a significant other? Do you think that your value as a human being is dependent upon being with someone? Are you trying to “not die alone?”
It is arguable that some of these reasons are great, some of these reasons aren’t great and some are much better than others. However, you must think about why you want to get involved with another person, what your reason implies and how healthy the reason may or may not be. If you base your self-worth off of being with someone else, then maybe you should rethink what it means to be a human being and have value. Some people may believe that they must do whatever their families tell them to do, out of respect. However, one can argue that a decision may not be the best decision just because your family wants you to do it. Better reasons for finding love would include having other people’s company in your life, wanting to start a family and giving in to those adult urges.
Are You the Best You? What Are Your Values and Interests?
Before you think about dating, you should think about your own values and interests. This is because of the fact that once you involve yourself with another human being, your life and agenda will have to meld with the life and agenda of the person who you are with.
Once you get involved with someone, you may be pressured into accepting their values and lifestyle choices. This may put a lot of pressure on you if you do not think along the same wavelengths as the person who you are with. This is particularly a problem among couples of different cultures, religions and ideologies. If you do a search on a search engine and click for more info, you will get stories pertaining to people of different backgrounds getting with each other and eventually trying to overpower and annoy each other.
If you do not feel solid and grounded in your own mind, it may not be the best idea to jump into a relationship. You should work on yourself and your priorities first before you date—and especially before you decide to seriously commit to one person. Are you at a point in your life where you want to be? Do you feel like you are the best you, and that you will consistently be the best you when you a dating or married to someone?